10 Ways to Make Your Husband Happier (And Your Marriage Better!)

There are no major surprises here. Women intellectually understand that sexual fulfillment is the greatest need for men. But does your actions really show you get it? Maybe you took care of the kids, made delicious dinners, even endured the action flick. Compared to other wives you know, you’re doing pretty well. But you may be discounting his need to carry out sex.

The world can be a tough place. As your husband walks the door, he needs to let out a sigh of relief. He’s home. Think about how you will greet your husband. Does he look behind your head when you’re typing furiously on the computer, or does he look at him and say, “Honey you’re so happy you’re at home”? Make your home a place where your husband is welcomed.

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Does your husband probably have to be on discounts? It might go to sex, quality time, cookies you used to bake him, or ball games together. Don’t be defensive when your husband speaks up for need. Instead, listen and then act proactively to meet what you need to do as best as you can.

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Many women are armed with the idea of submission. It doesn’t have to be that way. The New Testament speaks clearly in three passages in which our wives submit to our husbands to our Lord (Ephesians 5:22; Colossians 3:18 1 Peter 3:1). This does not mean you will become a doormat. What that means is that you respect your husband’s role as a leader of the house. After weighing the topic, the final decision belongs to your man.

This is what your husband really likes! It doesn’t take a penny and there’s very little time. A healthy daily dosage of passionate kisses will boost your marriage and keep the pilot’s light shining between you. Just like you were dating, give lots of kisses.

When you were dating, your husband found your body type attractive. He was hooked on your looks. Since you are married, it is important that he still finds you attractive. Put your time and effort into looking at your weight and dress properly for your spouse, and it conveys volume. I care about you. You are still for me. I want you to approach me.

Someone once wisely told me that date nights are cheaper than marriage counseling. When you have time to connect regularly with your spouse and be happy and romantic, it will prevent the Arctic cold from settling between you. Date nights will give you something you look forward to. Don’t let them become a family-run meeting. Keep your date nights as pure recreation and joy.

You’ve probably heard the phrase “happy wife, happy life.” Most, if not all, husbands will certainly agree! When a wife is unhappy, everyone in the family knows. You may not feel like you’re smiling around your house one day, but fake it first. With that plastic smile, your natural, beautiful smile will soon appear. Your smile tells your man, “I’m happy to be married to you. I’m grateful for your wonderful life with you.”

If someone repeats everything you say to your husband, is it “print-worthy news?”? Are you piling up with praise and encouragement or criticism and irony? Please cherish your husband’s efforts to please you and provide to your family. Don’t throw in the trash what he does on his face or behind his back. Your words are more important to him than anyone else.

Your children know that they can divide and conquer. When they succeed, your home is not peaceful. Recognise that you and your husband are not on the opposite team with different parenting philosophies. You must reach the same team so that you can be a united front for your children.

So of these suggestions, do you think you will most bless your husband? Implement that tip this week and then continue adding it to your repertoire. You’ll have a very happy husband!

Arlene Pellicane is a speaker and author to a happy husband for 31 days and an author to you for 31 days. She is a guest of Today’s Family Life, 700 Clubs, Turning Points with David Jeremiah, and The Ire of Power. Arlene and her husband James live in San Diego with three children. Visit the Arlene website at www.thehappyhusband.com.