Actress Jen Lily is a passionate advocate for adoption and foster care, and recently shared her powerful, multi-faceted journey with CBN News.
“The journey for me started as a child,” Lily said. “My parents were what I call informal foster parents. My father was a judge and my mother was the director of women and children’s charity.”
Because of these roles, families were unable to legally raise their children, but their withdrawal was not “stop them from being considerate,” she said.
“Our home was like a rotating door from time to time for people who might help transition and bridge life,” she said. “So the idea of ââa child living in my house that wasn’t in my house was not scary to me.”
Helping children in need
Despite being used to raising Lily, she said her husband Jason Wayne had a very different experience – and at first, strangers would live a bit “scary” in their home. I found an idea.
“For most people on a Foster Care adoption journey, there is usually one spouse who says, “Let’s do this.” There’s also another spouse who thinks “You’re crazy.” â
The actress said the care and adoption process for her near-kind foster parents began in 2011 when she became a child advocate for ChildHelp, a nonprofit organization defending the issue. Ta.
“They are one of our largest and longest-running nonprofits against child abuse and neglect,” Lily said. “One of their programs they have is called special friends and it’s like the Big Brothers, Big Sisters where you coach your kids.”
It was the experience that she began opening the doors to promote Lily’s care. After coaching the little girl in the program, Lily and Wayne wanted to be more involved.
The actress said her Christian faith motivated her to raise her and adopt her.
“When love is your motivation, you have to look at these kids,” Lily said. “You can’t look away.”
Lily speaks up
Lily also spoke to Vermont, where she reportedly stopped Christian families from adopting biblical beliefs. This is the story of two families making headlines last year after they filed lawsuits.
At the time, the actress warned that the Vermont Department of Children and Family Services’ decision to make two families AX licenses was a constitutional violation.
“This action not only violates our constitutional rights, but also puts the happiness of children who desperately need a safe, loving home,” she said. “Does the government decide that it is safer to stay in a dangerous and potentially life-threatening situation for children than to live in a home with Christian beliefs? Make it logical. â
In a recent interview with CBN News, Lily revealed a conversation with the Vermont Governor’s office last year. This is an argument I wanted to pursue to better understand the problems with the table. Lily approached the debate with an open mind, openly thinking, to understand the state’s position.
“I…” I believe there will be a seat at the table for everyone. âĶI think you should as long as your home is safe, truly safe and provides love, safety and stability to these kids. I have a seat at that table,” Lily said.
Instead, she said the ultimate desire is to reunite the children with their parents.
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“If the problem is that we don’t allow Christians to raise them because we don’t agree with the transgender (issue), then if that’s your fear, then put those kids with your family. I’ll do it,” Lily said. “I don’t know why you’re saying it. “No, Christians can’t be raised anymore,” and I said, “Don’t you agree?”
Lily said the representative responded by stating that the government was “not taking a seat from the table” and that such a concept was “silly.” However, officials reportedly followed up with something else afterwards. She declares that she doesn’t know anyone loyal to anyone other than the two families at the heart of a lawsuit that doesn’t affirm the gender identity of the foster child.
This was suspended by Lily, taking into account her Christian faith and perspective.
“And I remembered, ‘Oh, oh, now you put me in a hot seat,” she recalled. “I said, ‘Well, I have to back up at the time and let you know that I am one of the Christians who don’t support it.”
At that point, Lily laughed, her representative rolled her eyes and smirked. She ended the conversation with respect and realized that she didn’t make much progress.
Despite this conclusion, Lily conveyed the final message to the officials.
“And I said, ‘I really hope – and this is my sincere hope – for all children who need a home, and need a safe and loving home, this “Parents do not affect their ability to recruit more foster parents or maintain more foster parents,” she said. “We are in danger because we don’t have enough homes available. We have kids sleeping all over the country and in the offices of social workers in shelters. Or worse yet, we have to say that we can’t help but think about them. Stay as an abuser who might kill him.”
“I have five to seven children who die every day in the United States due to abuse or negligence, and in many cases, that’s because they had no place to put them,” Lily said.
The role of the church
The actress said she believes that women’s “hearts are in the right place” and truly believes they are doing their best for their children.
But it does not help to relieve the storms created by the intermittent attitudes of Christians.
Lily doesn’t know where the matter goes or what will unfold, but added that the church needs to think more deeply about the next step, especially if Christians are dismissed.
“Maybe it looks like the church is stepping into the government and opening it as a safe home. That’s something,” Lily said. “And how beautiful is it if a single mother, a single dad, or a family experiencing a crisis say, ‘I don’t have the ability to provide my child safely’? Our church home, how can we wrap you up? How can I serve? Do we take care of your children and actually provide them with love, stability and safety? â
Inspired by Lily’s story, for those aiming to nurture themselves, she encouraged them to take orientation classes to get more information and step into the gap.
“I truly believe that everyone was created intentionally and for a purpose — for this exact moment,” she said. “And we all love seeing people’s differences because we all reflect God and his nature. And I think it’s so cool.”
Arica Radke, deputy commissioner of the Vermont Deputy Bureau of Family Services, said she had not commented “on details of the pending lawsuit,” the agency told CBN News.
However, the agency provided some general sentiment. I leave them with their full statement on this issue.
“The Children and Families Division (DCF) has not commented on details of the pending lawsuit. That said, generally speaking, DCF has given the attention and support of young people in custody. We are committed to ensuring that young foster parents are placed in a home that supports all aspects of their own things, including sexual orientation and gender identity. The department is committed to children and Rather than barriers to children and young people that prioritize youth safety and identify as part of the LGBTQI+ community, we work with the larger community to become partners, allies and support systems.
Studies have shown that foster parent LGBTQI+ youths are higher than average negative outcomes, including substance abuse, human trafficking and suicide. By enabling foster parents to provide safe and positive care, we improve outcomes for this group of children and are comparable to heterosexual and cis-gender peers (matching the gender assigned at birth). refers to gender identity). It is a human right to see everyone being valued, endorsed and not faced with discrimination, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity. The Family Services department is here to serve everyone and supports that expectation both on its staff and on its foster parents who agree to take care of the youth under our custody. .
Children and young people know that even if they are asked, they may not share sexual orientation or gender identity. Furthermore, with the understanding that many children may not fully understand sexual orientation or gender identity, today’s honest questions were answered to reflect the honest feelings of the same children the following day. It may not be. With that in mind, it is our responsibility to ensure that all children and young people live in their homes with caregivers who are fully embraced, overall affirmed and committed to supporting them. We are the ones that are chosen for our children and young people, and these personal aspects of their presence when they choose to share them with us. You need to ensure that you can respect the
We are a great foster parent who helps to care for Vermont children, including a respectable religious background that promises to support and care for vulnerable children who need loving homes. I am grateful to all my relatives’ caregivers. Providing a safe, affirming, accepting and welcoming home is beneficial and life-saving for all young people. â
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